The Best of Times and the Worst of Times

It has been a month since I’ve written here. Which felt odd because I wrote for 14 months consistently and never missed a week. I wouldn’t call the last month a season of writer’s block, but rather life block. The last month of my life, my family’s life has been the most difficult that I can remember. And maybe I am a prisoner of the moment, always (see) using superlatives to describe the current season, which has its positives. Living in the moment matters. Except when that moment is difficult. Then perspective matters which eludes me of late.

Perspective is the ability to take a step back and reevaluate the current situation in light of the past or even in light of someone else’s dire situation that eventually changed. Perspective introduced “This too shall pass” into our vernacular. She penned the silly, bathroom poem Footprints in the Sand and started the whole self-help movement. You’re welcome Steven Covey and Tony Robbins. And while I understand the point of getting a fresh set of eyes, or backing up and getting a bird’s eye view, or even the spiritual cast all my cares on Him, I just don’t know how to today.

Yes, I’ve tried everything. I take care of myself with exercise and vitamins. My schedule is not too busy and I have others bearing some of the load. If prayer was going to work in this season, it would have. There’s been plenty. And it’s not like there’s a magic amount anyway. If God was into formulas and equations to enact His desires based on our effort, then we would usurp His position at first chance. But that’s not how the real world works, contrary to the television preachers. In fact, that’s not what the Psalms look like at all. Thank God for them or I really would be completely lost.

So, I decided to sit down and write anyway. I connect with you here and have committed to not pretending. Also, when I am in a tough season, I notice that my memory wanes. But I can’t forget these moments, as hard as they are, they matter too. This is me checking in. This is me remembering. This is me documenting all of the moments of my life- not just the Facebook and Instagram moments.

Don’t get me wrong, happiness and joy and laughter and friendships are close. They aren’t fake or forced, they might be more intentional (which could be a good thing), but I have plenty to be happy and laugh about. What’s odd is that they spin simultaneously with my other emotions. Orbiting the paradox of my life that might not be a paradox at all, but maybe just life. I have found that there aren’t really any moments of undiluted, singular emotion. It’s a mixed bag of happy and sad, frustration and contentment. And that’s what life is.

44 Comments for “The Best of Times and the Worst of Times”

Laney Brown

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Thank you for being real and I’m glad you checked back in. I don’t usually comment but I always read and I’ve missed reading them the past few weeks. Keeping you and your family in my prayers!

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I really have missed your post and allowing us a peep into your daily joys, struggles, life as you live it. Thank you for your honesty and not sugar coating what is a very real and not always pretty side of life.
Prayers for you, Tiff, the kids and your parents.
God bless you all

Andrea

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I too read and keep up with you but never comment. But there’s something about this one… Thanks for keeping it real – I may not walk along the same road but I connect with you. Praying for and with you, stay true.

Debra George

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It seems that this is the post that will drag us lurkers into the light. Like others, I have been following you for quite some time and have never commented. Thank you for your true perspective, not viewed through someone else’s situation, but through your own. Sometimes that’s all we can manage.

Jeremy Sims

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Thank you for following along Debra. I know there are friends out there “lurking”, it’s great to hear from you!

Barbara Benton

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This is raw and real. Too often the picture is painted that praise and worship, prayer and Bible-reading will make it all okay. Those things certainly help give us strength for the hard times, but they don’t always lessen the difficulty. May God continue to give you and yours extraordinary power from high.

Kat & Dave Mills

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We love you and your family Jeremy. Many, many prayers go up all the time. You can be as real as you want to be son. Because, you know, everyone has a bad day or season. I know your easy days have got to be harder than others have on their worst days. But no one would know that by your actions. If you need us at any time, we’re a phone call away.

Mark Frey

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I dared not ask when another eloquent and painful story would come. Sometimes life takes over and we go into survival mode. Just know that when you share…it reminds me to keep things in perspective. It reminds me that you can’t turn it all off or escape even if for a moment. Life is always there to remind us that we must live. Sometimes just endure…

Even in your hardest moments, I want you to know what a difference you make for your family, your church, all the kids that you impact, Tiff and your kids. Your strength matters, but even more, your weakness and vulnerability matters. Dont ever brush it away. This world tells us (especially men) that you must always stand strong and act like it doesn’t hurt.

We rarely witness true strength in our life…my friend, I see His strength in you and it is challenging me to be a better man.

I love you brother.
Mark

Candice Higdon

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I enjoyed my time with you and Tiff tonight. I tell others often, but I probably don’t tell you enough what y’all mean to us. I can’t put into words really what it means to have y’all pour into our lives like you do. Thank you doesn’t seem enough, but I am grateful and want you both to know that. We love you all.

Carol Dudley

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Jeremy, I have missed your posts the past few weeks. If I reply, it is usually to your sweet mom but I want you to know what an impact all of your posts have had on me. There is an honesty and depth in what you write that goes straight to my heart. The loss of our son, Ron, Jr., last November brought such pain into our lives that it is almost unbearable and reading your blog ministers to me every single week. I pray for you and your sweet and precious family and I thank you for your ability to speak the hard truth. You are a blessing.

Jeremy Sims

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Thank you Carol, my parents told me about Ron last year. I am so sorry. Thank you for journeying with me.

Susan Bethea

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Your gut wrenching honesty is what draws me in. Please, continue, because in our weakness, He is made stronger in our lives. So, the fact that you are still here and writing, makes me know that God can use anyone at anytime in the storms of life. I will

Stephanie Wright

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I was praying for you all this morning before reading this. I have missed your posts, too, like so many others on here. You and Tiffi are a masterpiece in God’s hands. You may not see that right now, but He is making good out of the bad. He always does. He is a good, good Father. And I know that you’ve probably heard this a thousand times, but when I pray for you, I keep hearing “My grace is sufficient.” I pray for His abundant grace to submerge you, and may strength arise in you both as we all wait for her miracle to come.

Sharon

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Jeremy, My heart is saddened by your circumstances. However, I know you can handle this situation better than anyone. You are in a valley but will be on top of the mountain again. Just like Job you will relie on God for your strength, wisdom, guidance, assurances, patience, love and hope throughout this time. Just like Job, you will get through it all. Prayers for each of you, especially Tiff. You, Jeremy are in the shadow of His wings. I love all of you. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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I understand what you mean about emotions spinning simultaneously. Even Jesus, who knew exactly why he was here, and who had full perspective concerning what his pain and difficulty would accomplish – even he experienced a myriad of emotions at once. I am always impressed with the fact that Jesus did not hesitate to feel his emotions, to express them, to process through them – no matter what they were. And the times which he required solitude and reflection were important. It’s okay, I think, for a person to take the time he needs to think through the hard things in life. Sometimes, you have to allow yourself to fully feel the sadness or grief or frustration or fear that your circumstances bring about in you, before you are able to also open up to rest of what God has for you in your situation… to realize that you can still experience moments of joy when you are sad, that there is always the greatest hope even when your situation is called hopeless, that our faith is strongest in our weakness. Those good truths don’t really make sadness less sad or helplessness less frustrating, but those good truths existing along with the hard truths do bring us to a place where we can choose to rely on God to do what he does, despite the confusion and grief we swim in. We can rely on God to always bring us to a place of love, no matter what the emotions are that surround us, and no matter what it is we must face today and tomorrow and next week. “Father, if you are willing, please take this cup of suffering away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.” ‭‭Luke‬ ‭22:42‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Pam Finocchio

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I, like so many others, have followed your blog and been encouraged by your strength and honesty. Stand strong in your faith. Thank you so much for your open honesty about real life. May God bless you and yours more and more.
Pam

Lou McCullough

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Jeremy,
Even as you are going through so much pain, you are such a blessing to Charles and me. We love you so much and pray daily for you and your family.
Keep looking up,
Lou

David L. Raley

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You are strong! You are a good man! You are a good husband! You are a good father. You are a good example of Christlikeness. You are good for us! You are loved and appreciated by hundreds and maybe thousands. You have challenged our faith and love. Prayers and love sent to you and Tiff!

Dianne Montgomery

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Jeremy, you always seem manage to match your words with your feelings, your faith, your family and your friends. Thank you for being transparent and serving as an example to others that may be going through hard seasons of life that it’s okay to tell the truth, that some days are okay, some day are good and some days are a challenge. I will always hold you, your family and my Kingwood family close to my heart. May God continue to bless you with His grace, His mercy and His love.

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